Ever have one of those moments when you are staring yourself in the mirror and suddenly you say to yourself, Is this me?

Well, it happened to me over the weekend, and it felt like a light bulb flashed right above my head. I had a breakthrough I didn’t even know I needed–at, it turns out, a time when I needed it the most.

Friday morning, I went to my ah-mazing and long time hairdresser Danai from Maven Beverly Hills for a refresher.  My hair had lost its shape, felt tired, the color had grown out, and I was feeling uninspired (With my hair and in general.)  We’ve been playing around with my hair color and cut for a while now, but Friday was the day we decided to bring up my honey blonde highlights to the top of my head.  (I’m blonde!!) Planning to go all blonde with hair flowing all along my shoulders. I love my hair!

Changing hair color has always symbolized, to me, that I was ready for something to change. Had a breakup?  Dyed my hair. Left a job? Dyed my hair. Felt like things weren’t moving forward in my business?  Yep! I dyed my hair.  Even if I couldn’t effect any change anywhere else in my life, I could at least change my hair.

But something different happened this time. I was just in for a regular hair update–not looking for something drastic. Which reflects how I’ve been feeling recently: a bit blah, a bit stuck and plain ol’ exhausted.  When that happens, I have a hard time seeing the light in my work, in my own personal power and in my life.  But thanks to a hair refresher, left the salon feeling fresh possibilities around me and that was a great start.

And here’s where things got interesting.

That night I went out to the movies with my fiance, Mike. I wore torn denim, lace up gold heels, an easy tee and a leather jacket–one of my favorite go-to looks. Easy and stylish.  I felt great, and I almost forgot I looked different–until I went to the restroom to wash my hands and looked up into the mirror. And there before me was somebody else!

I mean, it was me, but the person looking back was confident, beautiful, powerful, stylish and BLONDE. And then it hit me: This is what people see when they see me.  How come I don’t see myself this way?  And what if I did start to see myself the way others do?

And, that’s when that lightbulb went off above my head. I looked at my reflection and said to myself, This is me. Own it, girlfriend.

And there you have it. A simple, unexpected, unplanned hair update completely changed my perspective on myself. Turns out I wasn’t owning who I am; I was just gliding through the world instead of acknowledging the unique statement I make in it. I am strong, confident, beautiful and powerful–that’s how people see me. And when I match that perception by looking at myself that way–well, then I’m unstoppable.

Now one big question remains:  What good can I do and influence with all this personal power? Stay tuned…

Photography by Shelly Waldman